52 Weeks 500 Words
This is how it began: Justine (not her real
name) decided to write 500 words (or as near as), anything goes, per week for 52
weeks. She would then submit it for anonymous posting, via me, her friend.
Perhaps a pattern will emerge from her words, but at this stage it’s more an
experiment I have agreed to share in. I’ll attempt to draw conclusions at the
end of this. Stay tuned if this resonates with you.
(Last weekend we had power outages and could't post - this week's entry is thus a little longer to make up for it)
Week 16
'Hello, everyone! I saw what Elaina did there with the last
post (week 15), nudging me to expand on my take of the ‘season’. I thus changed
my strategy and deleted the journal entry I had prepared for last weekend. Just
as well, I think, because that was a dark one and no one deserves to be bowed
down by that kind of emotional burden. Actually, although I deleted it from the
file I’m keeping with all these entries, I put it somewhere else – for me to
struggle with when I have the courage.
Still, I think this ‘season to be jolly’ thing forms part of
that darkness, and therefore what I’m about to record may contain elements of
the deleted one.
When we were children Christmas was huge. It is still huge
for children today, and that is as it should be. Many may say it is an unreal
event and should be toned down, but I say the imagination and anticipation that
goes into it creates a child’s creativity. It isn't about how much they receive
on the day, for we can all come up with ideas that don’t break the bank, but it
is about them feeling worthy. As we felt worthy for many years.
Now, here we enter the arena of religion. You may ask, does
that mean kids who don’t get to celebrate Christmas feel unworthy? It is, after
all, a Christian holiday. No, that is not what I’m saying, and I entirely
remove the religious aspect to this day and look at it purely from a child’s
point of view. I believe all cultures have a way of celebrating that builds a
child’s creativity and sense of worth, just not on the same day as this day. I
believe, however, many now celebrate Christmas in many countries whether
Christian or not, seeing it as a means to celebrate togetherness, and to have
fun. Nothing wrong with that. It brings us all closer, I think, if we take it
as a day for family, for our children, for laughter and good spirit.
As adults, Christmas isn't so huge. Perhaps this is due to
the monetary aspect, for many feel they have to spend too much to make the day
special. That is so far from the truth, that I don’t understand why it still
happens. Getting together and having a meal and a laugh is what it is about,
whether that meal is grand or basic. It is the action of choosing to spend a
day together that makes it wonderful. Right, and then you say, but we can do
that any day of the year, and I agree, and you definitely should, but it is
also a truth that, in the back of our minds, we know a really large part of
humankind is engaged in precisely the same action world over, and that means,
for a small window in the year, we all feel the sense of togetherness. We are
one, as humans. An amazing feeling, not so?
Why then, this darkness when the season descends upon us,
for some of us? Many will be alone and that is one reason, therefore the
‘togetherness’ escapes us. Many still feel it is money related, and cannot
afford the shindig and feel terrible about it. Many believe it is now so
commercial the real value of Christmas is entirely missing, and that is a truth
also, but what is ‘real value’? We need to take a hard look at our measuring
sticks.
Real value isn't religion or faith. I put to you Christmas
is now commercial because those elements are secondary. I also believe they
should be secondary. I’m not explaining myself very well, sorry. Let me put it
like this: the real value of Christmas lies in congregating together because
you want to be together to enjoy the fellowship of each other’s company on a
day when the real world simply cannot intrude. Real value, therefore, is
setting aside the problems of life and simply enjoying the living of it.
Looking at it from a faith perspective, the fact that so many choose to follow
the route of fellowship rather than worship, is another reason for the sense of
depression that envelopes some of us during this time.
And, another reason for feeling unhappy, is the missing of
loved ones on a day we used to expect them to be in our presence. Grief becomes
very real again, and that is understandable.
And, lastly, for many of us, when family get together, it
means only strife. It’s about showmanship, my gift is better than yours, I
could have put on a better meal than you, ha. It’s judgemental too, why didn't
you take that job, when I told you it’s better for you, you’re getting fat,
you’re not eating enough, your kids are out of hand, I can sort them out in a
day, your father is ill, why haven’t you visited. And a host of others, I’m
sure you know the drill in your family. Suddenly people who generally avoid
each other are thrown together, because it’s expected at Christmas. How dare we
exclude so and so from the gathering? What’s wrong with you? And therefore so
and so is invited in order to allay that judgement, and the day is entirely
ruined by so and so coming into your home. Sound familiar? Right. So we hate
celebrating Christmas, it’s a day of strife.
When we think about it, then, the solutions are simple. If
we have kids, make the day about them. If everyone is adult, invite only those
you want to spend time with and have a good laugh. Forget commercialism and the
money aspect, and simply enjoy each other’s company. If you are religious, say
your prayers, and then enjoy the company of those who aren't. And if you’re
missing a loved one intensely on the day, put a glass of bubbly (or whatever
you’re having) on the table and offer him or her a toast in remembrance, shed a
tear (nothing wrong with that) and then go forth and enjoy the day. If you are
alone, make the day yours. Do something that makes you feel happy within,
whether it’s snuggling in with a good book or watching a couple of movies, or
making yourself something nice to eat when you don’t usually bother cooking.
Take the day and be you.
I have now taken a deep, deep breath. Having read through
all this, I now understand my own darkness is of my creation, and I am able to
rise above it. Many of these factors as listed form part of my issues, but
having now laid them out and having offered solutions, I actually feel better
about the season to be jolly.
I hope you do, too.
Cheers!'
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