52 Weeks 500 Words
This is how it began: Justine (not her real
name) decided to write 500 words (or as near as), anything goes, per week for 52
weeks. She would then submit it for anonymous posting, via me, her friend.
Perhaps a pattern will emerge from her words, but at this stage it’s more an
experiment I have agreed to share in. I’ll attempt to draw conclusions at the
end of this. Stay tuned if this resonates with you.
Week 50
"Do you know this one? Due to the drama caused by certain
members of your family, you choose to walk away. You cut them out of your life,
because your sanity is more important to you than always ‘coping’ with the
latest drama.
Yes? Many of us eventually reach this point where staying
away is the better option, don’t we?
And then something happens that could change it. In this
instance, a friend walked away from family … and now someone has fallen ill,
seriously ill. To make peace, she would like to visit, but there is so much
added stuff that comes with doing this, she is now in quite a bind. On the one
hand, she will feel terribly guilty if she stays away, but on the other hand
she must expect havoc to re-enter her life once more if she steps into that
ring again.
I don’t know how to advise her. My family is sparse, but I
have had friends I now no longer have contact with. So I understand, but
family, of course, is not quite the same as a friend you no longer see. What
wold you do? Which is the better choice?
Why do so many of us function only when there is drama in
our lives? We say we don’t need it and yet seek it out and sometimes even cause
it. Why? If we sought peace first, my friend would make her way to the hospital
in ease and visit without the expectations of doom now hanging over her.
Unfortunately, this is the negative side in all of us. This
is how we get our energy. Without it we feel drained and have no sense of
place. Right? But hold on here, is it not also true that at the end of a long
day of drama we feel drained and without direction? It stands to reason then,
the energy we think we get is in fact the wrong energy. It may bolster us
through the day (or so we think) but at the end of it we have lost ourselves,
rather than gained.
There is no easy answer, other than to suggest toning down
the drama. Concentrate on peace. This is what my friend did, of course, in
staying away … so what now? I would say pay that visit and make your peace and
then step away again, even if it means putting your phone off for a week or two
until the others involved get the message. Maybe that’s being rude and
stubborn, but we have to take care of ourselves first.
Good luck, my friend. My door is open if you need to unload,
know that!"
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